They say suicide is the easy way out, that it is selfish, self-centred, and doesn’t resolve the issue; only makes it worse.
But do the people saying that, been in that situation where they believe that those around them, parents, children, and friends, would be better off without them? Where they believe that all they are doing is causing pain, anguish and frustration.
It is easy for someone on the outside to come to their conclusion of a situation of someone else’s life, and that is for anything and everything, not just suicide.
Unfortunately, in reality, there are parents of children that decide to take their own lives and those who are bystanders make the automatic judgement that they didn’t care about the children. But they did, their mental illness made them feel too crazy and deranged for the children to be around, and convinced them that the way to fix it was to go. In this scenario, the children could be anything from partners, parents, and friends.
I’m not saying that these are valid reasonings behind suicide and why it is okay, just defending the reputation of those gone who are called selfish and inconsiderate by strangers.
Yes, those who are left behind are suffering, but we need to stop blaming the victim for it.
What we need to blame for a suicide is the instigator. Who or what triggered off the start of mental illness. Not the victim.
Wouldn’t the bully be blamed if the person they were targeting was driven to suicide? Yes.
An individual was driven to end his or her life, as they thought death to be the only solution to end the bleak messages inside their heads, to only hearing those words spoken by a ‘superior’ person. Another bully.
Maybe instead of focusing on whether a suicide victim is selfish or not, the primary issue of having at least eight deaths of suicide per day needs to be examined and discussed instead.
It is more worrisome that suicide is the leading cause of death, but to some that are blinded by the facts, it isn’t. It is more necessary for them to state how thoughtless the suicidal victim was, instead of giving their sympathies.