Whenever we need to deal with a problem, we unconsciously decide to either ignore it or find an alternative option. This concept can be applied and multiplied a few times for what could be considered the simplest of things for those who struggle with anxiety. A major and reoccurring event this notion is relevant to is when an anxious person needs to socialise.
I like to separate the act of socialisation into two different categories, one with people I consider family and friends, where communication isn’t entirely urgent, and the other where I need to communicate with unknown people, such as calling to make a doctors appointment, which can be essential. You might be thinking after reading that, I may continue keeping contact with family and friends and disregarding unfamiliar persons; however, I often push aside both sides.
As simple and nonphysical social media and text messaging communication are, for me, it is still a form of socialising that terrifies me. And if you are still waiting for a reply back from me, I will hopefully get to it.
Don’t push yourself, but give a nudge
The most difficult part of having a social anxiety condition is having a strong gravitation towards avoiding situations and environments that stimulate anxiety. Essentially, making a suffer believe that if they were to not engage in a particular setting/activity, anxiety levels would be low in comparison. So, if you were to force someone who has a social anxiety disorder, into a circumstance where they weren’t slowly introduced into, anxiety levels would be extremely high, and just intensify future complications of defeating anxiety.
Cross-examine what is worrying you
Suffers from any mental illness would have heard from non-suffers that “it’s all in your head”, yes fancy that, my thoughts of anxiousness are coming from the same place as my brain (mind blown). So, our concerns are somewhat only thought about in one place, our minds. What I find helpful is, getting those contemplations out of my head to get another opinion and evaluation; which is why I created the My Anxiousness Calmer. A concept that stemmed by my psychologist to psychically list my worrisome thoughts and deciding whether or not, they are generating genuine anxiety. I decided that evaluating at the before and after my reflections, would also help clear my mind and confront my not-so anxious thoughts. You can access the My Anxiousness Calmer here.
Practice, practice and practice
Your anxiety won’t be cured after your first attempt, unfortunately; you may have not even been able to venture into your first attempt, and that is okay. As long as you make the effort to try once more, I know it can take a few tries of first times to finally accomplish that initial endeavour; with most things, I am still trying and soon I will be able to order a coffee or go to class without being overcome with anxiety to ditch the whole idea.
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